KNOWN SACRIFICES

well, don’t mention is mentioned after it has been mentioned .. ~amf

Last year I started the #towardsbetterhumanity series.
The acceptance received further ascertained the facts that my thoughts and inspirations were not alienated .
it’s crazy how many write ups I have been able to originally and solely author in the last 1 year

Dealing with humans is one of my best experiences.

I’m a self acclaimed and practicing human psychologist, a private counsellor to many

And my hypothesis, most of the time turn out right .

I study human behavior, I am human too ..

We are my specimen!

I will be addressing one human behavioral problem,
I hope you pay attention and prolly grab the lessons you could!

(I am not much of a English , I mean an English specialist
so, brace for possible blunders)

The more you deal with humans,
the more you realize the puniness in humanity,
This knowledge will guide you to act accordingly(for the willing ones)

There are days we do something good, go out of our way, or make huge sacrifices for people without them knowing the magnitude of the behind the scene difficulties and sacrifices.

It’s usually worse when the task appears so simple, superficially.
Oft, we have to pass through difficult processes in getting simple stuffs done.

Humanly speaking you will expect to be shown appreciation and gratitude for the good deeds.

We can’t deny the “good” feeling that comes with being appreciated, efforts being valued , and vice versa
even when we say “don’t mention”

well, don’t mention is mentioned after it has been mentioned!

BUT, it gets so hurtful to see people treat your huge sacrifice with levity, casual and almost like it was nothing!

It is in-depth more hurtful when their appreciations don’t MATCH or pass the minimal level of the sacrifices we made for them!
That is the word, MATCH !

But the issue and understanding is,
You can’t blame them.

Humans naturally won’t appreciate what they do not know
Or what they are not aware of !

You can’t blame people for not being grateful for what they don’t know.

Lemme share a relatable story.
Check this out!

“I was going to town and I needed to help a friend collect a package on my way, Collecting a package appears so simple as said,

I set out,
I stopped by, at the delivery office, I met quite a long queue !
I waited for 15 minutes before getting the package !

On my way to my primary destination,
The vehicle I boarded broke down.
It was a-bit more difficult getting transport!

I was supposed to be in an important meeting, I got late as a result of the transport muddle.

I was heavily castigated for coming late.

All these happened just to collect a package for a friend.
When I finally met my friend and delivered his package

He simply told me with a smile “thank you”
😂😂😂🙄🙄

I unplugged my handsfree,
“You say?”
I asked

“Thank you for getting the package for me”
he replied.

He went back to what he was doing,
to him, it was just simply to get a package!
But I knew what I passed through!

I smiled,

I felt dissatisfied,
I felt like I needed more than just a verbal thank you!

Tell me again!
Whisper it!
Shout !
Text me!
Call me!
Buy me food!
Give me money !
Hug me!
😂😂😂

Scoffs!
Well,

You can’t just get mad/angry at people when they don’t know what you have done for them ..

They are not superhuman, they are not “omniKnowest”,
If they don’t know , they don’t know.

When you go the extra length for people,
Maturely, Let them know what you have done for them.

Give them the benefit of doubt ,
Explain what you have done for them to them
and leave it in their court to cherish the huge sacrifice you have made!

Give people the chance to be out rightly ungrateful,

You naturally should not expect people to be grateful for what they don’t know.

So if you really need the gratitude and appreciation, let your good deeds be known to your beneficiary,

You may have the right to feel bad if they choose not to appreciate it!

Then this ….

I usually use a friend ’s account for a particular type of transaction,
I transfer to him then, he pays with his card,
Quite a simple and straightforward task

One of the usual days
I needed to pay for something which seems so important
As usual
I transferred
He did the payment for me,
it took a bit longer of time but transaction got successful.

Unknown to me,
He phone was on 2%
There was a moderate downpour of rain, mobile network was bad,
He had no source of electrical power, PHCN held it!

He had to enter the rain to the abode of a close friend with an alternate source of power to be able to conclude the transaction.

It was still raining when he was set to go back home,
As it was getting late, He had to set out again in the same rain.
Dude caught cold,
Lost appetite for dinner

All just to complete a SIMPLE transaction …

Meanwhile I was on the couch,
Waiting for confirmation .
When I received the confirmation,
I simply texted “Thanks man”

Hmmmm …
It was just for him to help me complete a simple online payment on his phone right ? ……