Listening Ear — The psychology of Peace of Mind
“There are times that all you need is someone who will listen to you without judging you” ― Bernard Kelvin Clive
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Have you ever paused to understand the psychology behind the peace of mind and satisfaction that comes after opening up and sharing your problems , thoughts and situations with the right people?
You wonder at the calmness that comes after venting and crying out to the ones who listen and the ones you trust.
Can you explain the sense of acceptance you feel when you pour out your heart and someone is actually listening!
The truth is, sharing our problems with (right) people don’t outrightly solve our problems BUT you wonder where the ease, calmness, relief come from after sharing the problems ?
Relatably,
Why exactly do you post your thoughts, pictures and opinions on social media platforms?, why exactly do you update your status ?
For whatever reason it may be, the undisputed basic reason is that you want someone to hear you!.
You want someone to (maybe) listen to you, you hope someone will make a nice comment 😄 about your outlook .. (especially if you are still budding in your gluteal region or you actually have things to show off).
There are times when you do not have anyone in particular in mind, but you want someone to actually view and react to what you posted, If not you could have left that picture, info and thought to yourself.
Well, it’s psychological !
As a matter of fact,
Some people make more friends just to have more status viewers 😂 !
Amidst all these frenzies lies a silent manic depression ….
A lot of people don’t have or know exactly who to genuinely open up to, which makes some to opt for the “die in silence” choice.
The fear of being judged has encapsulated a lot of people, the fear of being judged by people who are prolly worse keeps pushing people to the darkest corners.
Whether we admit or not, we need people,and we really really do!
I have seen a bunch of people console themselves with self love 😄 and self crush.
Well, self love is good, but we can’t deny the fact that we feel special when genuine love comes from the outside, I mean when people actually love us and treat us well.
We will admit we feel (at least a little) better when someone goes out of his way to make sacrificial efforts for us.
All these make us feel special than the consoling self crush 😂
You know, there is this crucial part of human that seeks attention , and wants to be listened to.
There is an innate part of human that seeks audience and acceptance .
Lack of audience and acceptance have driven so many to depression while some are pushed to take extreme measures.
All the needed attention, concern, acceptance and listening ears come from where and who exactly ?
Of course you will agree with me they all come from our fellow humans.
You may not know, a number of people silently transit into depression because they have no-one that pays attention or shows them the minimal concern .
So many years back when I was beclouded by low self esteem, coupled with my speech impediment, I never felt among even in communities.
I saw people jumping at each other , having fun and conversations but no one really looked at my side, at that point in my life, I just needed someone to show me the minimal attention and make me feel among.
Studies show that most people with acute depression and those that go the extreme of suicide, usually have nobody to share their griefs and pains with while they are being mauled deeper by their struggles 😔 .
According to https://www.samaritans.org/ ’s Small Talk Saves Lives Campaign,
“A little small talk can be all it takes to interrupt someone’s suicidal thoughts and could help set them on the journey to recovery.”
“Loneliness is a serious public health issue. There is an association between suicide and loneliness , and most of the young people we interviewed said it played a significant role in causing their suicidal thoughts ”
In my years of experience as an unofficial teen counsellor , a bunch of female youngsters told to me, the common reason they got into premature relationships …
“ I just needed someone to talk to ”
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Though I knew there was more to the reason given, but it further confirms the fact that we need people, we seek to be listened to, loved and accepted!
We can’t deny this fact,
We can never comfortably be in solitude!
Most importantly, more than just needing people,
We need the right Ones !
Be a listening ear …
Be a right One.
“Sometimes all a person wants is an empathetic ear; all he or she needs is to talk it out. Just offering a listening ear and an understanding heart for his or her suffering can be a big comfort.” ― Roy T. Bennett
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